How do you create the life you do want, when you look around at your life and all you can feel and see is so much of what you don’t want? I know for me I can feel stuck in the illusion that I can’t achieve what I want in life because of all the reasons or excuses I tell myself that keep me from my dreams, such as I can’t afford that, or I can’t sell that or I am not lucky…The list can go on and on. I’m sure you have a list of your own. Some days it feels almost impossible to feel positive and upbeat enough for you to change the way you feel when you are struggling to get out of bed in the morning, or just get through the day. Maybe you really don’t enjoy your job but have no idea how to make it better or find a new line of work that brings you joy. Occasionally, when I feel like the world is out to get me or the universe is not on my side, I literally feel like my body aches, and just doesn’t feel right, almost if I am getting the flu. Sometimes I watch myself procrastinating just to get out of bed, and get a move on to do what I need to do that will improve my life and take me in the direction I desire more than anything. It even feels at times like a struggle to even feel grateful and happy for another day. Why does that happen when in reality, outside of my mind, I have a great life and everything is really good?
It is the saboteur in me, we all have one, and she likes to play tricks on me to keep me stuck. She will want to stay in bed, not work on my business, and not go to the gym for example. She loves to procrastinate and pretend that there is not enough time in the day or she’ll say all the reasons why putting any effort into something is a waste of time because it won’t happen anyway, or we can do it in an hour or tomorrow. She likes to eat too much, or eat sugar or have some wine. When she is feeling defeated she loves to have bread, which actually hurts my stomach and then I really can’t get any work done. It is pretty amazing how malicious that part of ourselves is at keeping us away from the life we really do want – the life of our dreams.
I have been diligently observing and having conversations with my saboteur. I have decided to shine a big bright light on her and bring her out of the shadows. I want her in the bright light so I can keep an eye on her. No more hiding, no more shame. I want to know what she is thinking, feeling and what she is doing so I can then take responsibility for my emotions, feelings, and actions and love her right out of what she was going to do to take me out of the game before the game has even begun!
So how do you create the life you want? By thinking about what you do want, visualizing every detail, writing it out, making a plan and a schedule on how many hours you are going to devote to it. What will your life look like and most of all feel like. That is the key. Your emotions are the fire that gets the manifestation going and pushes it into your reality. It is not enough to just think about your dreams for them to manifest, you have to put tons of feeling and love energy behind them! The Universe needs to know you are serious and really want what you say you want, which is in the feeling part of the equation. The other parts of the recipe are feeling grateful that you have already received the life you desire, the house, the job or the relationship. Visualize it as if it has already happened, talk about it in the present tense. Expunge any doubt that you will receive it. Then be happy, positive, generous, and send love. As much love as you can muster shine out to the world. As much positive energy and emotions, love and being happy the quicker your dreams will manifest. If it is not happening fast enough, see where you are blocking your dreams with negative thoughts or “I don’t wants.” When you say “I don’t want” you are just creating more of what you don’t want because the universe and your subconscious doesn’t hear the “don’t” and so it just keeps giving you more of what you don’t want. You must be responsible for your thoughts, and take them back. Cancel them out with many positive happy thoughts. Own your mind, body emotions and spirit. This is the way to create the life of your dreams. Imagine it, create an action plan, put emotions behind it, use visualization and create action behind your plan and do not allow one ounce of negativity to come in…then watch your life shift and align to your vision and your dream! Try it and let me know how it works for you. I would love to hear your stories in the comments below.
I serve women who are looking to find joy in their lives, and who desire to get free of what is holding them back from being who they are meant to be. They feel anxious, depressed, stuck, sad, dis-empowered, hopeless, disconnected from others, and misunderstood.
They want more from life. I also serve women who are fighting cancer or have overcome and beat cancer. I assist them to keep their lives intact and who they are personally as they fight to put the experience in the past and help them to move on with their lives. It is here that they find their true self, through self love and an authentic relationship from healing their body and mind. Licensed Soul Therapist Carolyn Goldfarb